Sometimes Words Fail

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Sometimes words fail. But often all we have is words. I will say this: I not only hope–but pray, and pray fervently–that all people of America will now stop for a moment to consider how to find peaceful resolutions.

Consider how the larger ramifications of divisiveness, blame, antagonism and hatred causes only destruction, and the blessings of coming together in a harmonious way is always mutually beneficial. This is a place in history for this country that is pivotal, regardless of political affiliation.

It is merely this, “United we stand, divided we fall.”

There is no way to bring together anything in anger and hatred. Anger and hatred will never work to heal this nation. And one person’s views are not representative of the rich diversity of human beings found on this planet, and in particular our country. However, every wise, celebrated and affective leader within this world has advocated peace, justice, and positive solutions.

If we all want to continue to live in the United States in a manner that is positive, it will require everyone’s participation. And it begins by eliminating the need to over-simplify the complexity of our country, and most importantly the human beings and all life found in it.

If you are a religious person, I suggest you pray for peaceful resolutions. If you are not, I ask that you stop to reflect on the practical value of peaceful communities, harmonious life and the rarity and glorious nature of having basic human rights for all. This is a conflict and a schism in our country that will not be solved easily; and it will require true dedication on all sides, in every mind and heart to find solutions that bring together and heal our communal life. This is not a football game, or a scenario of “winning” verses “loosing.” People can and do live well together while having opposing views when they want to–if we all at least value and respect the expansive practicality of justice, truth, safety for ourselves, community, peaceful existence, and prosperity for all. If we lose, we lose together. If we win, we win together.

This is our life that we all have come to enjoy, along side our family, friends, neighbors, and community. If you want safety and peace, you will not find it in furthering division by way of concept, words and action–or inaction. There needs to be the unilateral decision among all Americans to create space for peace and justice to dwell within, and in order to make this nation whole we must make it whole within our own selves–rather than to look for someone else to do it for us. Think of all that you value in your life, and then wish that for your neighbor too.

If we sink into survival of the fittest out of fear of the unknown, we will be rending our own opportunities into pieces. And if we tear up that potential, we destroy our own possibilities for happiness, health, and prosperity. Keep this in mind as we move through difficult times. We can do this together. But we cannot do it alone or in separateness. This is what we can do as a people, as individuals, regardless of ideology, religion or political attachments. Be the light by becoming the light. May we all be blessed!

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What Should We Do?

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In a world full of hate, what should we do? In times of violence, abuse and fear-mongering, what should we do?

When bad things happen to good people, and work is hard to find, when we see people living without basic needs, what do we do? When we are living in desperate situations, what do we do?

It is easy to become overwhelmed by what we see everyday and what we experience. But do not let what we see and experience make us bitter and hard. Do not let our current situations and frustrations keep us from what we are meant to experience in life. Regardless of how bad things get, there is always an opportunity in the experience of being human to use everything that comes to us to become who we are in the deepest truth of what that means. And that truth is glorious. And that truth is freedom itself.

When we are overwhelmed, what we do is to take a moment and sit still–pray, reflect and listen to our hearts. Find the mercy and compassion that dwell in the deepest part of who we are and pull that forward. Let it arise within us as a holy infinite spring that gives pure unending life to all. Give room for all the disturbing horror of the world to move through, be cleansed by that life spring and be released forever more. We wipe the dirt away from our soul–our mind and heart–that gathers like dust, settling on us in a dark cloud each day. Wash it off.

We do such things by developing a mental attitude that says, I am not afraid to feel what I feel. I am fearless. I am made of a fiery refining courage. I am the light in the darkness. My feelings are not permanent. My mind and heart are of the same essence as the divine–the pure omnipotent consciousness–and I will rest in that perfection.

And we do this. We sit within our own innate divine perfection and we refuel, we feed our soul and refresh our mind and heart.
Then we go on.

We go on to our normal daily life to do whatever is best to our own capacity.

We do good for the sake of goodness. And we do what good we can do to the level we are able to do it. We have faith rather than fear. And when we have fear, instead of faith–we forgive ourselves and we grow stronger in mercy. Because we all fail. We all break and are remade into something more sublime when we allow that transfiguration. And we must allow transfiguration to happen. We must be willing and give consent for miracles to seed, bloom, grow and have room to flourish. Mercy is made of failure.

Living well is a simple process. It requires a dedication to simple methods of preserving our own integrity, joy, love and enthusiasm by way of facing what we need to face each day with as much mercy as we can cultivate.

Silence our own harsh words within the mind that tell us that we are a worthless, unlovable, stupid and a failure. When the ugly critical inner voices no longer spew hatred in our minds, our mouths will speak kindness and wisdom. And our words will heal rather than cause harm. As we change our interior dialogue we can imagine washing clean those wounded echoes of past shame with the light of love and mercy. And this is enough.

So this is what we do.

We keep trying. We get up when we fall.

We love. We laugh. We keep doing the best we can with what we’ve been given. We sit and face our problems in our own personal intimate way. We encourage others. We encourage ourselves. We make an effort to help one another. We find our mercy and compassion within, and we become a light for the world to see by.

And we do this all within the mundane. It only takes everyday normal people to change the world for the better.

Be loving, compassionate and generous and everything we touch will begin to heal, even if we cannot see that miraclous restoration happening. When one person heals, so do we all.

Stay strong in the trust that we each have an important part to play. Learn how to feed innate joy, to inspire it within, so you may share it with others.

This is what we should do.

What seems overly complicated and oppressive can only be addressed effectively with simplicity.

Mercy is simple.

Love is simple.

Joy is simple.

This is what we can do.

Everyone Counts–A Critique on Hate

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People are talking. The world suddenly seems incredibly small, because it is. And Rational people are concerned with the rise of hatred in what words we see splattered like blood on a wall, what hatred we see smeared across the television screens and on our little cell phones that are inseparable from our person. We can’t stop looking at the train as it hits the concrete wall going a million miles per hour. As if in slow motion, we watch the destruction as it grinds into something unrecognizable, disintegrating into shrapnel that flies out in all directions decapitating any future anyone may ever have. Is this entertainment? Do we care enough to change our behavior? Or do we just watch as things go up in flames? Rational people are sickened and abhorrently shocked at the absurdity of hatred exploding in violent episodes through the country, throughout the world. None of it makes sense. And none of it is a solution for anything.

And it is all a personal responsibility. Do we choose hatred or do we chose to be compassionate? Everything we do is a choice. Human Beings are not predestined to live like mindless demons controlled by inner ignorance, ego and fear. Anyone can be a good person, but it actually takes effort. It takes no effort to hate and cause destruction, other than a complacent willingness to just fling our insanity at the world around us, blame everyone else and live like a brain-sick rabid wolverine. And just a note to be clear: a healthy wild wolverine has much better, more practical habits than a stubbornly stupid hate-filled person.

This continued violent hatred is a giant shit ball, ever increasing in size as it rolls straight down the hill of denigrating what’s left of humanity to land firmly in hell. Hatred is a death sentence for whoever holds it, whoever projects it and whoever inflicts it on others. Stop making hell for everyone else. If you must live in hell, please do it privately and inclusively on your own.

SPEAKING DIRECTLY TO THOSE WHO THINK HATRED IS A GOOD IDEA, OR THAT IT IS A INHERENT RIGHT TO PUKE OUT HATRED UNCHALLENGED ONTO THE REST OF CREATION:

Stop it. You’re really being stupid.

If you hate anyone or anything, then you need to reevaluate your habitual thinking patterns. Regardless of religious or non-religious affiliation, it is a known fact that psychologically hatred consumes the person who hates. Hatred even makes the person who hates physically sick. Hatred is never a solution and always a problem. Hatred directly causes harm to self and to others. And the human being who ignorantly thinks hatred is natural, and is just a part of being alive, let me just say–it isn’t. Hatred is a poison in the mind and heart. Hatred is a choice. Do we hold onto the poison, do we cast the poison out?

Dysfunction is unfortunately prevalent in the world. People do horrible things. Abusers destroy children and children if they survive it have to choose, “Do I continue to destroy by also being a hate-filled abuser, or do I become the cure for hatred on the planet by letting my own experience fill me with a higher compassionate purpose?” You can be a hate-filled abuser and accuser, or you can contribute to positive solutions–but you can’t do both.

There is always a choice.

And it is a personal choice. Hate stands against anything good–even if not especially, self-hatred. Hatred is a mental and emotional egotistical distortion that a person surrenders to, ignorantly thinks is the way things are or willingly embraces. It’s like falling in love with cancer, inviting it into your physical body and thinking “I’ll be just fine.” after the fact. “Yes, cancer I want you to eat my body, and disease my mind until it causes everything I am to rot and fester, then wither and die. Yes, I want that.”

So the hatred we see boiling over into a venomous momentous idea of having a “personal right” to destroy anyone and everything that steps into our field of psychosis–is not helpful. It is no one’s personal right to harm anyone else. It is no one’s personal right to abuse another person or living being. It is not a personal inalienable right to hate and destroy. It is however a personal responsibility to be a positive human being who causes no harm.

Everyone counts.

If we keep on blaming everyone else for our problems, then we are stupid and are doomed to destroy everything good that we know of life. And that is just the way it is. This world is too small for it to be anyway other than that.

It’s a choice. Choose wisely.

 

 

New Testament Love Translated for Modern Americans

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Love is the message of Jesus of Nazareth, the Biblical Jesus Christ. Love. That’s the point. And for some reason, love is a quality that humankind is reluctant to embrace. It has always been that way, and it seems in modern times that we haven’t changed a bit. We are still resistant to the idea of genuine love in all its varied forms. We dance all around through the scriptures, this way and that, making them fit into whatever scenario we feel works for us at the time. I truly believe that most Christians greatly revere, admire and are inspired by the teachings of Jesus Christ, but how often do we as individuals actually delve into cultivating true love within our own hearts as he demands we do–and live that love? It’s not impossible to do. And it seems like a reasonable request. Why do we, even now, not want to embrace the core of what Jesus’ teachings prescribe?

I say that and some of you may not want to believe that it is true. But look at the news. Look how people who say they are Christians are behaving. Listen to what they say. Is that love?

Do not make the mistake of reinterpreting love as some twisted, self-righteous excuse to inflict a hateful judgment, pointing and crying out “Us” and “Them” in the name of God. Being a judgmental ass is not righteousness, rather it is self-righteous, vain, pompous, hateful ignorance-and it has nothing to do with love. Just a reminder, the word “Satan” means the accuser. So be careful of the finger pointing.

We cannot base the depth of Christianity on the screaming voices of those who have labeled themselves as Christians, but preach violence, hatred, destruction and discrimination. We cannot base our understanding of any religion on such faulty views. It would be wonderful if everyone who said they were Christian actually acted like one–and better yet imitated Jesus in his non-violent, patient and loving manner. But as we can clearly see, that is not what is happening in the world.

Love is scary. Love makes us vulnerable. And so we are immensely frightened by the concept of sincerely opening our hearts in this cruel world, full of cruel people. However, it is paradoxical that if we do not open our hearts, we instead become one of those who are cruel. That is the power of fear. By not doing what we know we should we become what we do not want to be–we become what we fear the most. In the end when all is said and done, if it ain’t love–or our thoughts, speech and actions are not done with loving intent–then it’s vanity and a waste of time. Love is all we can keep in the end, yet love is never a possession.

For the last 30 years exactly, I have been working every day, struggling through my own issues, through the years of having suicidal depression, dysfunction, intense anger and self-hate in order to find my way to love. And I’d like to share what I have learned on the subject, and most of it has come by way of studying scriptures, sacred texts, learning to forgive myself and practicing what I preach. It has taken being open to what I need to learn. Truth requires an open mind and an open heart.

First, as a Christian who embraces God by every name and honors God in all to the best of my capacity, what I have found is in the New Testament the most important aspect is the teachings of Jesus, which focus on love and compassion. He keeps things simple. “Love God. Love your neighbor as yourself.” “Judge not lest ye be judged.” And importantly he says repeatedly, “Seek truth, the truth will set you free.”

The way is simple.

Love is indeed found in greater truth. When one looks for truth, we can find answers and solutions–and eventually we find wisdom. And while stumbling into wisdom via our search for truth, we discover higher clarity to why there is in fact inherent love and divinity within ourselves. In the realization of that inherent quality of indwelling divinity, a light shines on how we can better become vessels of love; and it becomes obvious why love and compassion are so intensely important.

But what is love? What is the definition of love in the New Testament?

To find love within ourselves is to understand the nature of mercy. Mercy is a wisdom spawn of imperfection, yet mercy is perfect in itself. Love is inseparable from mercy and wisdom, and all are divine perfections–not to be mistaken with the idea of human perfection which is a complete falsehood. We are not on the planet to pretend to be perfect people. We are all screwed up–every one of us is broken or at least has been broken at some point. If we can’t admit to that, then God help us all.

Don’t kid yourself into thinking that you must act like your are perfect because you are this or that religion. You aren’t perfect. I’m not perfect. But that’s the whole crazy delusion. That’s not what divine perfection is about. Divine perfection is about love and mercy. There is no way to win approval in this world of human beings. If acceptance and approval is what one thinks of as perfection, then that person is in big trouble. We can go our entire lives thinking that we need to live up to the standards of others. At best that will lead to being permanently insecure and completely at the whim of what everyone else’s delusions dictate. Doesn’t sound appealing to me. Instead, we should focus on what we are at our core and transform into the highest joyful version of that merely for the sake of goodness and love itself. What can we do to improve or be happier about our own life and the lives of everyone we care for, if it does not begin and end with making an ongoing effort to exude common decency, respect for the sacredness of all life, love, tolerance and compassion?

“Beloved, Love one another as God has loved you.”

And this, “I want mercy, not sacrifice.” That statement is in the New Testament in many places for good reason. “I want mercy, not sacrifice.”

Think about it.

It is in recovering these divine perfections within that will simultaneously bring us into the unity with the pure God Mind and God Heart. That is who we really are. But that takes a great bit of lifelong effort, which also might be why so few attempt to be like Christ-like. It’s way easier to be a judgmental, angry, hateful, reactive ass. However, being a judgmental ass is not a fulfilled, joyful occupation; nor is it a comprehensively positive solution to life as we know it. It only makes life worse for everyone, including ourselves. To refine our human experience into one of love and mercy, we must look at ourselves and forgive our own idiosyncrasies and numerous faults. We do that with understanding. If we can do that for ourselves, we can do that for others. And that is mercy plain and simple. And the entire effort is one of true love. At some point, our own interior love knows we have no right to judge anyone.

The Old Testament establishes what I just said. Genesis 1:27
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

If God created humankind in his own image, then at the core of humanity there is the perfect God within–humanity is innately good. We are all inherently good. However, we have to work to rediscover that good. That is our choice to do. Being a good person is not an immediate entitled privilege reserved just for us because we say we are saved by Jesus. Being saved by Jesus requires us to make an effort to do our part. If we are not doing our part, then that’s also a choice. There is always cause and effect to everything we do. If we choose to call ourselves Christian, but not try in any shape or form to be Christ-like, that’s not a good statement to our own commitment to being saved. We have to work hard to make good choices that bring good into our own lives, our family’s lives and into the world around us. The world around us is a projection of how we think and what we focus on. We have to learn how to cope in a radically distorted vision of what we think we know of the world, through working through our own egotistical issues that shroud us in darkness, rather than light. “Let your eye be filled with light, so that your whole body will be filled with light as well.”

We have to choose to learn how to move through emotions with emotional literacy. That takes wisdom. And to find wisdom, we must develop discernment.

The number one thing I have learned about discernment is simply–if it isn’t compassionate, it isn’t from God.

Focus is everything. If we go around focused on evil, we will have lots of evil. If we focus on good, if we focus on God, then we will have light. It doesn’t mean the whole world will willingly transform to our higher vision of love and light. But it doesn’t mean it won’t either. Our participation in necessary.

If we think we are flawed at our core, from evil origins from the beginning of time, then what hope is there to become like Jesus Christ? Don’t take away the only chance you have at healing, at wholeness–at holiness–by thinking your way into impossibility. That would be hell on earth. We must find our own sacredness for ourselves.

Original sin does not mean we are evil at the core. It means we are ignorant and require truth in order to be free from our shroud of ignorance. Ignorance is something we are taught-something we erroneously embrace. We are subtly taught ignorance by living in the world, while thinking that the world around us is truth. The world cannot determine effective positive rules in which for us to successfully live by, no matter what we see or experience. The rules of the world are deceptive and primarily all together wrong because they are based on distorted perception, emotional reactivity and ignorance in its most primal form. There are deeper truths; an absolute truth.

We can see perfection in the world in beauty and love. So it’s not that we can’t learn or grow by what we witness or experience, but we must work at becoming more aware of what we are thinking, saying and doing. We must evaluate why we think, say and do what we do. What is our intent? Personal ego power or higher love?

Jesus says we, human beings, can become just like him and then some. “You too can do all that I can do and more; because I go now to the Father.”

Let’s contemplate this, a commonly read quote from 1St Corinthians about love. Most people have heard or read the scripture I’m mentioning at some point in his or her life as a Christian. And most would feel the power in it, because it provokes an obvious truth about love. And I will say up front, Paul, who was formerly Saul, formerly a zealot who brutally killed early Christians as heretics before converting himself to Christianity, had a lot to say on a lot of subjects. Honestly, he was not always in accordance with Jesus’ teachings himself in his writings. So teachers of Biblical Scripture recommend using critical thinking when studying the bible.

As from Wikipedia: Critical thinking, also called critical analysis, is clear, rational thinking involving critique. Its details vary amongst those who define it. According to Barry K. Beyer (1995), critical thinking means making clear, reasoned judgments. During the process of critical thinking, ideas should be reasoned, well thought out, and judged.[1] The National Council for Excellence in Critical Thinking[2] defines critical thinking as the intellectually disciplined process of actively and skillfully conceptualizing, applying, analyzing, synthesizing, and/or evaluating information gathered from, or generated by, observation, experience, reflection, reasoning, or communication, as a guide to belief and action.’[3]

All I can say is that Paul, the author of 1st Corinthians, was a man of his time. He didn’t care for the rights of women, because the society he lived in at the time did not care for women, and additionally they were a culture that also kept slaves. Paul squelched the voices of women in the church, and his writings on the subject are still used as a way to control women presently. He didn’t recommend being married, among other things, and he also made a statement that can be horribly misinterpreted about our bodies and sexuality being evil. But we are talking about love. At best, he often had hard views. And there were only so many ways to verbalize extremely deep ideas with the language of his time, which has been translated over and over again for thousands of years.

With that said, Paul worked tirelessly unto death to redeem his former violent actions and went on to become a beacon of Christianity. Regardless, even though I truly relate to and am inspired by much of what Paul my say, I do not confuse Paul for Jesus.

On some subjects he was divinely inspired to the utmost degree, as with the scripture below. I do respect greatly his words of truth when they are based in the wisdom of love. This is a scripture that inspires true love and it well sums up the meaning of love in the New Testament.

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1 Though I command languages both human and angelic — if I speak without love, I am no more than a gong booming or a cymbal clashing.

2 And though I have the power of prophecy, to penetrate all mysteries and knowledge, and though I have all the faith necessary to move mountains — if I am without love, I am nothing.

3 Though I should give away to the poor all that I possess, and even give up my body to be burned — if I am without love, it will do me no good whatever.

4 Love is always patient and kind; love is never jealous; love is not boastful or conceited,

5 it is never rude and never seeks its own advantage, it does not take offence or store up grievances.

 

6 Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but finds its joy in the truth.

7 It is always ready to make allowances, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes.

8 Love never comes to an end. But if there are prophecies, they will be done away with; if tongues, they will fall silent; and if knowledge, it will be done away with.

9 For we know only imperfectly, and we prophesy imperfectly;

10 but once perfection comes, all imperfect things will be done away with.

11 When I was a child, I used to talk like a child, and see things as a child does, and think like a child; but now that I have become an adult, I have finished with all childish ways.

12 Now we see only reflections in a mirror, mere riddles, but then we shall be seeing face to face. Now I can know only imperfectly; but then I shall know just as fully as I am myself known.

13 As it is, these remain: faith, hope and love, the three of them; and the greatest of them is love.

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This is love.

To find love, we must become love. And to become love, we must be willing to see our own negative ego habits, and we must forgive ourselves. We must listen and learn; and we do that with mercy. We listen to and monitor what comes out of our minds, hearts and mouths, and we make it our goal to weed out what isn’t compassionate. It is important to treat our own psyche with compassion. Our hatred and anger are habitual cycles that return only with stronger force if they are not handled with compassion and forgiveness.

This interior work is the work of love. This is the highest goal in life, to seek truth and embody love.

Love takes courage and commitment. Love is a force that requires mastery and determination, but even a child can do it and children do it so wonderfully. “Let the children come unto me, for it is only in becoming like a child that one will know the kingdom of God.”

Love often requires us to face down demons of fear, and conquer them with faith.

Love certainly requires us to face truth about ourselves, and in facing that truth we find even greater love because we will find freedom from the deceptions we have mistakenly embraced that chronically poison our lives, and give rise to self-hatred, destructive behavior and self-sabotage. By cultivating pure hearted love, our minds align with the mind of God. The world may still be a sad, horrific place, but it all can be overcome with love. For in love we find our joy. And love is all that remains in the end. Love begets love.

“Love conquers all.”

 

 

 

The Rise & Fall of Being Amused

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I am not amused…

And that seems to be an issue with me lately. I don’t know about anyone else, but it is so easy to allow the circumstances around us to suck us dry to the bone.

Yesterday, I was all fired up to write a strong stern passionate dissertation on the subject of suicide and depression. And I did. But I don’t like it. I was angry when I wrote it. And I plan on rewriting it when I am in a better space for it. Our troubling human experiences of tumultuous crap has had it’s way with me.

Long time ago, I decided that as I have become a writer who writes specifically about spiritual matters that I would aspire to be like the late Blessed Pope John Paul II. That in itself might be a set up for failure on my part, but it’s good to have goals even if they seem unrealistic. Pope John Paul’s spiritual writings were always full of loving gracious wisdom. He never had harsh judgmental overtures; and he spoke down to no one, which I have always admired greatly. Few people have that universally compassionate quality in their writing in such as way as he. When I began writing professionally, I tried so hard to maintain some degree of that universal love and tranquility.

But now, that is just shot to hell.

Not only have I delved into hard core in-your-face mannerisms littered with cursing and other colorful explicatives, I’ve finally gradually hit a point where I’m feeling like I’m no longer writing but righteously ranting my concerns at people. Maybe some of that is good, but it wasn’t my plan. This may sound arrogant, but I know what I have to say is actually valid. I’m confident in my view. But regardless of confidence in the wisdom I might be able to access, it detracts from that wisdom if I can’t reel in the anger, and write and communicate successfully with more compassion. If what I am saying is no longer joyful on my part, it makes me question the usefulness of it all. We need more joy on this planet, not more venting. What I am saying is I’m tired of being sucked into the vortex of the trauma we call life. I’m tired of allowing myself to be sucked into that detrimental vacuum because I am getting caught up in reactivity.

It’s getting nasty out there. We are shoulder to shoulder; and we are all up in each other’s business because we are practically stacked on top of one another in this very small world. So yes, we do need to learn how to get along. I’d like to participate more fully in that “learning how to get along with our neighbors” or better yet, specifically, being able and willing to “Love thy neighbor.” And while in that process of learning how to love, I’d like to retain my own joy as I become a more conscious being with a more purposeful existence, and then share that joy.

Giving joy is how we get joy.

Figure that out.

Perhaps, as in everything, I’m having to find my own middle way somewhere in between being graciously and confidently inspiring; and being a ferocious fearless warrior-like words-on-fire swordsperson, attacking the general public with informational onslaughts. I don’t want my spirituality to become more war than a cure. More cure please.

A balance has to be maintained on the spiritual path, as on any path of functionality. Fearlessness is great! But we don’t always need to be fighting as if there is no way out but through the bloody mire. There are enough trials and tribulations without allowing my own love of inspired writing–and sharing whatever I feel may help–to devolve only into a battle of fierce arrows and swords with seemingly very little joy or compassion. Hollow words come from hollow hearts, and that isn’t what I want to happen to me.

So now I rest my sword–at least for the moment.

As with everything in life, it’s my own time to at least attempt to revert to some semblance of the original grace I was endeavoring for. May the torrent of ferocity mellow at least a little bit in favor of that beloved grace.

And just to redirect my personal revelation on my own need to tone it down a notch, maybe, just maybe–can we all do the same?

Can we calm down? Can I calm down?

May we together become calmer or at least try to be so. May we become the peaceful merciful people that we are truly able to be. And for the sake of joy, may we laugh more instead of crying so much; although crying has its own sacred space.

Not meaning to be judgey–especially right after my redemptive confession–but I think it would be much easier on everyone for everyone to stop spewing anger, righteous and otherwise. And I’ll leave it at that right now.

It’s not like I’m entirely counting on that to happen. It hasn’t yet. But I hope we can begin to share less hateful words and actions and more loving compassionate ones.

I hope I can be less angry and more compassionate in how I think, speak, act–and write.

Maybe, I can lighten up a bit? Maybe we can do that together?

To all those who are so bright and shiny out there, thank you!

For all those who make me laugh, thank you for that laughter! It is good medicine that I need desperately.

Joy is required. Joy is required.

For a good life, joy is required.

Joy is something we can have when we are not at war all the time.

Just for the sake of stating the fact, I cannot truly express how extremely appreciative I am for all the fantastic demented weirdoes with ridiculous uninhibited humor who laugh at themselves and remind us all of how bizarrely funny the human condition really is.

On that note, I will say some of the most damaged people I know are also the funniest and most beautiful beings. And some of the funniest souls are the ones most inspiring, uplifting and precious–amidst the vast sea of infinite preciousness. And without doubt, often those who have the hardest, cruelest, darkest lives, and unfortunate beginnings–those who feel everything acutely, and who seem to carry the most pain–are the same people who bring the most joy to others. Life works out that way most of the time.

The greatest shall be the least and the least shall be the greatest.

Thank you for that!

Spread a little joy.

I am sincerely hoping to do the same, today and everyday.

 

 

Why do we hate?

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The reason we hate is not because we fear what we don’t know. Racism and discrimination is always excused as a “fear.” It’s not fear as such, but it certainly can be a subtle tingle of terror felt in our guts telling us we are a part of the problem. We all have ignorance. We all have expansive unknown territories in which “we do not know.” Yet there is a larger, more destructive egotistical ignorance that we blatantly recognize within ourselves and feel the particular wrongness of it, and then we embrace this hate-filled ignorance anyway. Why do we do that?
The ignorance of this hatred, this evil, that persistently doesn’t seem to want to go away, is merely an individual problem with individual people that becomes a communal world problem; because we bring everything we are together for better or worse. We bring the joy of love or we bring the misery of hate. There is no “us” and “them,” but we divide ourselves from what saves us every day, in every moment, when we stand against what we know to be compassionate.

Within humanity there is only humanity. The divinity within humanity is humanity understanding the brilliance of the true human experience. Living egotistically is not the brilliance of the true human experience.

Selfish petty motives repeated in dull cycles of unconscious, unthinking, uncaring patterns are based in numb, meaningless survival, distortion, delusion and ingrained misinformation. Such a life is lived mindlessly going along with whimsical notions and reactions that are not helpful to anyone. If the negative patterns of thinking never change, the unhappy shallow way of life never changes. But people can become comfortable with misery when it’s all they know. Such is the nature of ignorance. Life is more than survival. Life is meant to be meaningful, but that is a choice we each have to make.

Even wild animals seem to know how to work together as a group better than humans to protect themselves from extinction. Could it be that human beings are the only species that will stare straight into the cataclysmic end of times caused as a result of our own bad behavior, and still stubbornly continuously refuse to learn or accept responsibilities for that unpleasant and unnecessary end result? “If I don’t get my way, I’ll make everyone suffer.” Isn’t that how it goes? Common sense demonstrates how benevolent behavior as a group leads to better living situations for everyone. Yet we continue to be problematic. The ego always screams like a child, “I want what I want when I want it, and I don’t care about anybody else!” We cannot continue to live like spoiled egotistical mean children, cruelly pulling the wings off butterflies, having tantrums to get what we want without thought or care about cause and effect. The ego doesn’t want to be challenged, but it must be regardless. And there’s our struggle, challenging the personal ego. Face the rotten little destructive demon within, and make your peace.

The reason we hate is because we are in the habit of hating. In the moment, it’s much easier to hate someone else, to blame someone else, than to make a personal effort to change the ingrained habitual negative thought patterns within our own mind. It’s easier to hate than to sort out the emotional dysfunction in our own hearts that makes us fearful and reactive to whatever sensations we “feel” within us. It’s easier to hate than to make an effort to work out our own ignorant ideas of who we are and what’s going on in the world; and decide to learn how to be kinder, wiser people who are willing and able to find positive solutions.

Do we suffer from the fear of fear—the fear of facing the darkness within our own person?

The glorification of ego, as “self,” has always been the modern way that will inevitably cause humanity to self-destruct—a preventable end to existence as we know it.

The obvious solution is finding compassion within our own mind and heart, while seeking to live altruistically to the best of our capacity. We, as individuals, can heal the world of all hatred and war in small mundane ways that no one might think significant at all.

Racism, among other hateful things, would no longer exist.

What we think, say and do is significant.

What we all “are” is significant, unilaterally so.

And, this is what is truly good within the world of people.

“Love one another.”

Smile. Let your heart open.

Forgive and shake hands.

It’s the only way.

On the Brink

We’re at a crest–the brink–do we, humanity, choose to stop reacting, pitching emotional tantrums, and spewing hostility and violence; or do we begin to look to our own thoughts, words and actions and fully acknowledge the personal responsibility to be a benevolent force of good in the world?

Emergency responders–respond. They don’t react. An emergency responder trains his or herself to help in the most effective way. We must respond in that degree. We must be heroes.

One must make an ongoing determined effort to rein in our own bad behavior, which always stems from reactivity. Staying in our ignorance and remaining apathetic in our negative reactive patterns is in fact a choice.

We are not helplessly a slave-I repeat–NOT a slave–to the unreasonable whims of our unexamined emotions and untamed mind. If we do nothing to raise our view in order to become more compassionate, conscientious and wisely aware, then we, as an individual, are completely and knowingly complicit in the degradation of life as we know it.